It’s hard for people to say to others ‘what you did or said or how you acted hurt my feelings, embarrassed me, or made me look stupid’. We just bottle up instead of telling our friends, brothers, acquaintances how we feel about what they have or haven’t done; said or not said.
Ego (pride), Shame, Shyness, Fear, are factors that make us bottle up to our peril. Sometimes we may feel that the relationship isn’t worth it, or we may feel that we are expecting too much of the person if we opened up. At other times we are afraid the other person may make fun of our pain or blow things out of proportion and tell us straight in the face ‘go to hell, I don’t care.’
Good relations can only come when we say how we feel and are appreciated.
Unfortunately, the World thinks it is a weakness to show how you feel. But you tell me, which requires more strength: To say how you feel or to bottle up & simmer in pain?
Good relations can only come when we can summon the strength & say how we feel & help people learn how to treat us right!
We also gain a lot when we tell people we appreciate them.
I love you
I appreciate you
I am sorry
Thank you for being there for me
I enjoyed your company
What else do you need to say to someone wey dey ‘heavy’ you for mouth?
And then when people we relate with break all barriers to talk to us about how they feel, let us neither degrade nor mock them but help them to become the best versions of themselves.
Feel it? Say it within moral limits!
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Men don’t really say how they feel… They try to cover up and act like their gender “man”.
Most men are going through pain and they can’t talk about it. I encourage men to always speak up… Thanks for sharing.
True, the world sees this as a weakness when really that is our power
The ability to express our emotions to one another. The letting down of that EGO and being in touch with our true feelings no matter how we look
To me, is the only true way to grow/mature
An act of humility.
“say it within moral limits!”….
Thanks Kem for this insightful piece. However, it’s equally important to understand very well the person you’re relating with. This is to know when & how to voice out your feelings to attract the desired result….