Consistency in Discipline

Kemka WeliLife Lessons25 Comments

The child said he wanted consistency in discipline.

“If you asked me ‘have you bath? And I don’t answer you take my silence as a ‘No’ and you order me, sometimes with the added burden of ‘a threat of punishment’, to stop whatever I am doing and go and bathe”.

Then all of a sudden there is an act of mischief in the house, like undeclared broken glass and if I keep quiet when I am asked ‘Child, are you the one who broke the glass?’ you just pronounce me guilty. The answer to you becomes ‘yes!’

I wish that my silence mean either ‘yes’ or ‘no’ & that you be consistent’

The laughter no be here. See sense!

The Pikin does not know that we have been around for a long time; done all; he probably thinks he invented ‘the golden silence’ tactics of avoiding responsibilities. Considering that we have never been wrong in the different ways we have interpreted his silence must show him that there is more to the determination to what he says or doesn’t say.

Like the child, we all SHOW (by many other means and not speech or lack of it) what we are no matter how well guarded we think we are. The mask gets off sometimes and people who are observant can see what we truly are even if we adopt the ‘the golden silence’ personality all the time.

To be successful in managing human relations you must observe people’s actions. Watch them closely; what they do and don’t do & their reaction to issues will tell you who they are and where they stand even if their words or silence expressly indicates otherwise. Their consistency, like the boy requested does not work.

Now when he is questioned, he knows that to speak up will save him a lot of trouble. You should too; no pretenses.

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25 Comments on “Consistency in Discipline”

  1. Nice story Mr. Weli. The things parents see in the hands of these smart children.
    Thanks for the lessons too.
    Congrats on launching your blog. Now we know we can get more of you.

  2. See sense!!!
    The child does not realize we observe lots more before drawing conclusions.
    However, though I do not agree with his premise 😂, there is a place for consistency on our part. It reduces our tendency to send conflicting messages to others.
    Thanks for sharing Kemka

  3. We’ve been there before. We’ve done that indeed. Our generation is caught up in the challenging situation of being the last breed of generation Y who must raise generation X children

  4. Discipline is like reins on horses, they shouldn’t be removed, save for when the horse has mastered the course perfectly.

  5. weldone! A well thought through piece.

    Experience with my wards over time has taught me that to the boys, silence means different things depending on who is asking when and why the child is being questioned.

    1. Thanks. It’s only with experience that the golden silence can be decoded. You & Madam are doing a great job.

  6. Discipline is the bridge between goals and accomplishment;
    What lies in our power to do, lies in our power not to do.
    Nice one Boss👍🏽

  7. Discipline has always been a dicy issue and ‘sense’ indeed needs to be applied. We may have it always and receive it when we need it. A nice one there, Mr. Krus

    1. Thanks Madam; I am aware you are dealing with kids who have plenty ‘sense’ as well. lol. Keep at it the rewards are great indeed.

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